Ten Things You Must Give Up to Move Forward
In my devotion this morning, I placed before God some challenges I have been encountering lately. I love that God hears my prayers and I love it even more when His response seems to be immediate and spot on (and favourable).
Shortly after I prayed I came across these ten tips, which essentially hit the nail right on the head with regard to the concerns I placed before Him.
So, rather than keeping it to myself, I decided to share. So here are the top ten things you MUST give up to move forward:
1. LETTING THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS CONTROL YOUR LIFE
- It’s not what others think, it’s what you think about yourself that counts.
- You have to do exactly what is best for you and your life, not what’s bet for everyone else.This point is number one for a reason. Way too often we allow the opinions of others (both negative and positive) to chart the course of our lives. Now, I’m not saying the opinions of others can’t be useful at all but at the end of the day, never act merely based on a person’s opinion; act based on what you think/know is BEST for you and most importantly always pray about it.
For example, I am sure we have all encountered situations in our lives when we may have had to seek advice. “Advice” is merely a person’s opinion, but at the end of the day we still had to make a decision regarding what action or steps we would take to address whatever the situation may have been. In making this decision we have/had to make it on the basis of what is best for us. In fact, in seeking advice 99.9% of the time we already know the solution, we just need confirmation.
2. THE SHAME OF PAST FAILURES
- Your past does not equate to your future.
- All that matters is what you do right now.There should be no shame associated with past failures. The operative word is “past”. The fact that you failed simply means you have an opportunity to learn a lesson which WILL bring you closer to achieving your desired goal/outcome.“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
― Winston Churchill
3. BEING INDECISIVE ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT
- You will never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be.”If you don’t know where you are going, any road can take you there.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
- Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately.I believe one of the main fruits of indecision is a lack of passion. Unless you are passionate about something you will only be lukewarm. You won’t be actively involved in bringing an idea to life or fulfilling a desired goal.
4. PROCRASTINATING ON GOALS THAT MATTER TO YOU
- There are two primary choices in life: a) to accept conditions as they exist, or b) accept the responsibility for changing them.
- The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is now.“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
5. CHOOSING TO DO NOTHING
- You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when.
- You can only decide how you are going to live, right now.
- Every day is a new chance to choose.This quote from Inferno sums this point up nicely:“And I — my head oppressed by horror — said:
“Master, what is it that I hear? Who are
those people so defeated by their pain?”
And he to me: “This miserable way
is taken by the sorry souls of those
who lived without disgrace and without praise.
They now commingle with the coward angels,
the company of those who were not rebels
nor faithful to their God, but stood apart.
The heavens, that their beauty not be lessened,
have cast them out, nor will deep Hell receive them —
even the wicked cannot glory in them.”
― Dante Alighieri
6. YOUR NEED TO BE RIGHT
- Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong.
- Giving up your right to be wrong will make you miss an opportunity to learn new things and move forward with your life.Never let pride stand in the way of your success.
” Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.” – Proverbs 16:18
7. RUNNING FROM PROBLEMS THAT SHOULD BE FIXED
- Stop running!
- Face these issues; fix the problems; communicate with, appreciate, forgive and love the people in your life who deserve it.running from a problem or an issue will not cause the problem or issue to cease existing.As I always say:
“If you sweep dust beneath a carpet, eventually it will rise.”
8. MAKING EXCUSES RATHER THAN DECISIONS
- Most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.Often we make excuses about all the things that are preventing us from moving forward. Upon closer examination of these things we will realize that there are simple solutions to each and every single one of them. I think part of the problem is, we often try to bare the burden of our journey by ourselves. Too often I see depicted a single person ascending a stairway as the image of the journey to “success”. But I think this captures the idea of this journey more aptly:
The road to success is not paved by individual action but is merely the end result of the integrated efforts of everyone who helped you along the way. So, the next time you think of making an excuse, stop to think about possible solutions and never hesitate to seek assistance if you lack the resources or capabilities to generate said solution. And again, always remember to pray.
9. OVERLOOKING THE POSITIVE POINTS IN YOUR LIFE
- What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for.
- You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.If all you focus on is the negativity in your life, then you will tend not to see all the good things you have been blessed with. So the next time you start complaining, take a moment to be thankful. For example a relative of mine was complaining about her shoes, only to pause and realize that having shoes to complain about is actually a blessing.
10. NOT APPRECIATING THE PRESENT MOMENT
- Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of little things.